Sometimes, Just Say “I Don’t Know”


Whether you realize it or not, when you tell someone to just try and “move on” before they can be healed of whatever hurt they received, all you are in fact doing is devaluing their pain and their perspective.

Whether the hurt is real or imaginary, it still hurts and making it seems like it’s just not that important makes them feel unimportant. When they ask for answers and you give them the politician run around and dance around a topic, the whole while evading the truth, all you are really doing is making them feel stupid.

Sometimes you just have to say “I don’t know” because sometimes you really may just not know. Sometimes you just have to hug someone and love on them without trying to say anything or adding any kind of two cents in. Whether or not you are in a leadership position or not or you just feel the need to “step up” and show them why what they did is wrong and why your point of view is backed by experience and knowledge, all you are making them feel is that their opinions and revelations are worthless.

Even though you may “know better”, sometimes you need to just let things play out until somebody who is obviously under an intense amount of duress calms down. Then you can rectify the situation and pick of the pieces, but if you try to fix things with your own personal brand of “guidance” before that right time all you will end up doing is shattering their peace and self-confidence even more until you have an extremely volatile situation and an even more volatile person who feels completely unjustified and worthless because they’ve been shown their opinions or pain don’t matter when compared to how right your opinions are.

We talk about a culture of honor, right? Sometimes honor is leaving someone alone until they know what to do with themselves.


For the Good of Mankind?

I just read a story about an 11 year old child admitted to Texas Christian University (TCU). There are many mixed emotions I have about this and many conflicting opinions within myself.

First, I am astounded and amazed at the wonderful intellect and gifts God has placed in this young boy. He is truly a wonderful person that gives rise to pride in the human potential and honor to God’s intentional endowments on His children. This young boy is nothing short of miraculous. But that’s just the thing: he is a young boy.

While I know he without a doubt has many wonderful and exciting things to offer the world and can make many changes for the better of mankind, I fear for his innocence. Everything, and I mean everything, has a process.

I have talked on this before, but if you try to reap what’s not ready you will have not-so-profitable consequences. Yes I know he can change the world and push humanity forward with the discoveries I’m confident in believing he will make, but what about him? He can do so much for us, but at the sacrifice of his age and innocence. Young buys should be climbing trees and playing soldiers, not studying quantum physics.

While he may have the capacity to graduate college at the age of 15, I sincerely believe it is something he is not truly ready for and it will harm him more than anything in the long run. While he may have the intellect of a man, he still has the developing mind of a child and should not be put the through the rigors and stresses of college, let alone try to stand up to the challenges and decisions college student lifestyle and culture presents while at an age where most people are only beginning to realize that they are individuals capable of thought outside what their parents tell them.

God, it is my sincere and earnest prayer that you steel his heart and mind and protect him from the many challenges that lie before him. Protect his innocence and help him retain that spark of childhood and wonder that many of us lost too early. God, I know you can make good out of any situation, so I’m believing you will turn this startling publicity stunt into a great opportunity as well as a gift. Lord, in your name I pray, amen.

Be blessed brothers and sisters, and never forget that God is here

Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”